Comments on: How do I get over the incest in my family? http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/ Everything About Social Science Wed, 17 Mar 2010 06:49:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: PeanutButterAndJelly http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5406 PeanutButterAndJelly Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5406 Just stay positive in life i guess? :] Just stay positive in life i guess? :]

]]> By: krennao http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5407 krennao Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5407 Okay history means past, its not right now. so move on. Okay history means past, its not right now. so move on.

]]> By: ver_jen http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5408 ver_jen Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5408 You don't get over it. You accept that it has happened in your family. You make the choice not to do it. You are not what your family is. You are very different from your family and you don't have to internalize their mistakes. You seek therapy for yourself so you can learn to love yourself as you are. You also do it to help with memories of your past that are not your fault but are a burden to you. You have the choice to rise above your family and become whatever you want. Love yourself and know that you are not your family. You don’t get over it. You accept that it has happened in your family. You make the choice not to do it. You are not what your family is. You are very different from your family and you don’t have to internalize their mistakes. You seek therapy for yourself so you can learn to love yourself as you are. You also do it to help with memories of your past that are not your fault but are a burden to you. You have the choice to rise above your family and become whatever you want. Love yourself and know that you are not your family.

]]> By: pygonza http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5409 pygonza Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5409 Have limited contact with the family members that engage in this practice. Strengthen your boundaries. Be prepared to confront boundary violations tactfully and report abuse if it occurs. Never leave your children alone with one of your family members and urge others in your family not to as well. I recommend you find a counselor with experience in the area of incest and working on boundaries. Have limited contact with the family members that engage in this practice. Strengthen your boundaries. Be prepared to confront boundary violations tactfully and report abuse if it occurs. Never leave your children alone with one of your family members and urge others in your family not to as well. I recommend you find a counselor with experience in the area of incest and working on boundaries.

]]> By: Tracy http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5410 Tracy Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5410 You have to look at it from a different stand point. Of course it's wrong but why is it wrong? Well genetically it is very wrong. But for two people who love each other to be together isn't wrong. You will never get closure from this situation if you see it as being anything other than genetically wrong. But when you see it as two people who love each other getting married, it's easier to handle. And by the way, the ones who have done this most likely don't see themselves as relatives. They see it differently too. You have to look at it from a different stand point. Of course it’s wrong but why is it wrong? Well genetically it is very wrong. But for two people who love each other to be together isn’t wrong. You will never get closure from this situation if you see it as being anything other than genetically wrong. But when you see it as two people who love each other getting married, it’s easier to handle.

And by the way, the ones who have done this most likely don’t see themselves as relatives. They see it differently too.

]]> By: jamie http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5411 jamie Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5411 i would advise you to stop thinking of it what was done may not be right but do not let it ruin your life i would advise you to stop thinking of it
what was done may not be right but do not let it ruin your life

]]> By: Jenni.is.Undead http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5412 Jenni.is.Undead Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5412 This is completely normal to be embarrassed about. I even had someone in my family try to get me to commit incest but gladly they accepted my views and no longer bothered me with it. Have you ever considered talking with the people in your family who commit incest or those who are married and asked WHY they chose this life? Are they aware that you are embarrassed? Have you ever gotten into an disagreement over this and do they know that you feel badly about this? I think it might be impossible for you to get over this in reality because this is your family and you have to live with this everyday but it does help to talk to someone about it in the family if you haven't already. This is completely normal to be embarrassed about. I even had someone in my family try to get me to commit incest but gladly they accepted my views and no longer bothered me with it. Have you ever considered talking with the people in your family who commit incest or those who are married and asked WHY they chose this life?
Are they aware that you are embarrassed?
Have you ever gotten into an disagreement over this and do they know that you feel badly about this?

I think it might be impossible for you to get over this in reality because this is your family and you have to live with this everyday but it does help to talk to someone about it in the family if you haven’t already.

]]> By: Martin http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5413 Martin Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5413 Are you sure the family members that married are actually doing incest? If they are cousins it is not really incest as cousins are allowed to legally marry in most of the world including about half of the states in USA. If they are more closely related, like bro/sis, dad/dau, etc. they could not be legally married. If they are doing incest, you do not have much choice but to accept it, they probably would not appreciate your interference in their life. I suggest you just concentrate of the good parts of your life and family. Are you sure the family members that married are actually doing incest? If they are cousins it is not really incest as cousins are allowed to legally marry in most of the world including about half of the states in USA.

If they are more closely related, like bro/sis, dad/dau, etc. they could not be legally married. If they are doing incest, you do not have much choice but to accept it, they probably would not appreciate your interference in their life. I suggest you just concentrate of the good parts of your life and family.

]]> By: Michael S http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5414 Michael S Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5414 Go far place and stay away from your family if you can no longer take it Go far place and stay away from your family if you can no longer take it

]]> By: Shawntel http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/comment-page-1/#comment-5415 Shawntel Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:06:30 +0000 http://social-science.indie.my/2009/10/24/how-do-i-get-over-the-incest-in-my-family/#comment-5415 HEY! I KNEW you looked funny... HEY! I KNEW you looked funny…

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