I’m going to assume that you’re a minor female, whose parents would be upset to some degree to know that you’re sexually active. Being upset could mean that you are the recipient of some sighs and eyerolling, or it might mean that you get kicked out of the house for having any thoughts of having sex before marriage, or it could mean anything in between. I would advise asking your mom or dad to make a doctor’s appointment first, and then ask to see the doctor alone. You can ask the doctor any number of things, and s/he’ll be able to answer a lot of questions.
In this situation, of not being able to ask your parents for birth control, I would advise using condoms, possibly using contraceptive foam as well. Condoms not only prevent pregnancy, they prevent disease as well, and if you’re not in a monogamous relationship, you should use condoms anyway, no matter what other birth control methods you use. Don’t lubricate condoms with petroleum jelly (Vaseline) because it might cause the material to break down. Use a sex lube, such as KY Jelly or something similar. This sort of stuff is labelled and sold as a "personal lubricant" and can be found near the condoms in any store that carries such things.
I would also go to Planned Parenthood and ask for any information that they might want to impart to you. They can tell you the latest birth control information for all methods. For instance, you might not want to get on the birth control pill if you’re not currently sexually active, as it is a constant dose of hormones. Sometimes this is great for other things, like regulating your menses, controlling cramps, and clearing up your skin. PP can also give you a gynecological exam, and you really do need one if you are thinking about becoming sexually active.
Blue Eyed Christian is, as far as I know, a real Christian, and has some rather strict and traditional viewpoints. You should consider this when reading her answers. On the other hand, I’m a moderate to hardcore feminist, and you should consider that when you read MY answers. She will tell you not to have sex before marriage. I will tell you to not have sex if you’re not prepared for it. I’ll tell you not to have sex at all if you’re a VERY young person, but if you are planning NOT to get pregnant, and trying to figure out how to avoid that problem right now, I think that this shows some maturity on your part. Sex can be a lot of fun, but it can also cause a lot of problems.
I’m the mother of a 30 year old woman, and when she was a teen, I taught her how to use condoms properly. I demonstrated how to put a condom on a broom handle, and insisted that she show me that she could do it properly. I then gave her a box of condoms, and told her that I’d buy her more, no questions asked, if she ever wanted them but was too embarrassed to buy them herself. However, as I said, I’m a feminist, and I’m rather liberal, politically, so you should take that into account.
BLUE EYED CHRISTIAN’S ANSWER is a lie and unutterably ridiculous.
If the pill is 99% safe and you use a condom which is 99% safe you won’t get pregnant.
She is lying about the facts because her religion forbids sex before marriage and recommends virgin teenage marriages.
Don’t listen to one word she says.
How many *countless women* could she know at age 25 that got pregnant on the pill.
Absolute lies.
I am 49 and know of no-one who got pregnant on the pill. If you use condoms too you will be safe.
A responsible person wouldn’t hide from their parents, the fact they’re taking birth control. If you’re a minor, your parents need to know all the medications you are on. What if you were in an accident, or had a reaction to other medication because of the birth control pills? Taking prescript medication without your parent’s knowledge, isn’t being responsible…which makes me believe that I doubt you’re old enough to be sexually active.
Go to a Planned Parenthood near you (don’t know where you’re from though) and tell them you would like to be on Birth Control, they will ask you about your income and base the price on that. When I was a teen I only paid $12 per month, my best friend only paid $5 per month.
There’s different laws different places on whether or not you need parental consent. Just call a woman’s clinic near you and ask what the age is.
If you can get it without parental consent, just hide the pills. Take the pill each night at the same time before you go to bed so your parents don’t see you taking it.
If you’re not allowed to get on it without parental consent, you could always just tell your mom you need it to regulate your period. Lots of people use birth control pills to regulate their monthly cycle, because it’s one of the only ways to regulate it. That’s what one of my friends did when we were teens. Worked like a charm.
Your county health department can help you (always check the expiration date on condoms) and your pediatrician or family doctor can also provide you with information. Your school counselor is another source. Get information from as many sources as possible and remember sometimes ppl let their own emotions or traditions get in the way of giving out basic knowledge, for example an adult might tell you to just say No.
Waiting for sex until your out of high school is best. There are risk, true. TakeCareHealth.com can help you find a clinic near you that gives vaccines to lessen the risk of cervical cancer. Sexetc.org is a site by girls for girls. TeenSource.org Healthfinder.gov gives sites. http://www.kff.org/womenshealth/1351-teenfct.cfm is Kaiser Family Foundations artice.
Remember Make the choices that are best for you…not your boyfriend or your friends. It’s only natural to be curious. But it’s okay to take your time. Everybody has the right to grow up in their own time frame. Be good to you.
I don’t want to help you go behind your parents’ back and do something that could wind up screwing up your life.
"i have before and i just don’t want to risk it"
I have lost count of how many women I know who got pregnant while taking the pill. Adult women, who were taking it properly. It is not foolproof; it has a failure rate. And it does nothing at all to protect you from STDs. Condoms aren’t 100% either. If you don’t want to risk it, then don’t have sex. It’s not as hard as you think, and you’ll feel way better about yourself. It’s the only method that is guaranteed to prevent pregnancy and STDs. And it’s free. ; ) And you won’t have to hide it from your parents.
well youre 19. your parents cant stop you from taking them. why does it matter to them that you want to take birth control? unless they want you to have grandchildren quickly.
live your own life and dont care about what your parents think about it. you are an adult and as such you make your own decisions in life, not your parents
I’m going to assume that you’re a minor female, whose parents would be upset to some degree to know that you’re sexually active. Being upset could mean that you are the recipient of some sighs and eyerolling, or it might mean that you get kicked out of the house for having any thoughts of having sex before marriage, or it could mean anything in between. I would advise asking your mom or dad to make a doctor’s appointment first, and then ask to see the doctor alone. You can ask the doctor any number of things, and s/he’ll be able to answer a lot of questions.
In this situation, of not being able to ask your parents for birth control, I would advise using condoms, possibly using contraceptive foam as well. Condoms not only prevent pregnancy, they prevent disease as well, and if you’re not in a monogamous relationship, you should use condoms anyway, no matter what other birth control methods you use. Don’t lubricate condoms with petroleum jelly (Vaseline) because it might cause the material to break down. Use a sex lube, such as KY Jelly or something similar. This sort of stuff is labelled and sold as a "personal lubricant" and can be found near the condoms in any store that carries such things.
I would also go to Planned Parenthood and ask for any information that they might want to impart to you. They can tell you the latest birth control information for all methods. For instance, you might not want to get on the birth control pill if you’re not currently sexually active, as it is a constant dose of hormones. Sometimes this is great for other things, like regulating your menses, controlling cramps, and clearing up your skin. PP can also give you a gynecological exam, and you really do need one if you are thinking about becoming sexually active.
Blue Eyed Christian is, as far as I know, a real Christian, and has some rather strict and traditional viewpoints. You should consider this when reading her answers. On the other hand, I’m a moderate to hardcore feminist, and you should consider that when you read MY answers. She will tell you not to have sex before marriage. I will tell you to not have sex if you’re not prepared for it. I’ll tell you not to have sex at all if you’re a VERY young person, but if you are planning NOT to get pregnant, and trying to figure out how to avoid that problem right now, I think that this shows some maturity on your part. Sex can be a lot of fun, but it can also cause a lot of problems.
I’m the mother of a 30 year old woman, and when she was a teen, I taught her how to use condoms properly. I demonstrated how to put a condom on a broom handle, and insisted that she show me that she could do it properly. I then gave her a box of condoms, and told her that I’d buy her more, no questions asked, if she ever wanted them but was too embarrassed to buy them herself. However, as I said, I’m a feminist, and I’m rather liberal, politically, so you should take that into account.
hide your pills and make him wear a condom
BLUE EYED CHRISTIAN’S ANSWER is a lie and unutterably ridiculous.
If the pill is 99% safe and you use a condom which is 99% safe you won’t get pregnant.
She is lying about the facts because her religion forbids sex before marriage and recommends virgin teenage marriages.
Don’t listen to one word she says.
How many *countless women* could she know at age 25 that got pregnant on the pill.
Absolute lies.
I am 49 and know of no-one who got pregnant on the pill. If you use condoms too you will be safe.
A responsible person wouldn’t hide from their parents, the fact they’re taking birth control. If you’re a minor, your parents need to know all the medications you are on. What if you were in an accident, or had a reaction to other medication because of the birth control pills? Taking prescript medication without your parent’s knowledge, isn’t being responsible…which makes me believe that I doubt you’re old enough to be sexually active.
Orally. Or you can get a shot every three months. Still – condom! Listen to Trevor.
You just need to tell your doctor. I wouldn’t tell my parents sh*t about my sex life since they never had any sex talks with me.
Go to a Planned Parenthood near you (don’t know where you’re from though) and tell them you would like to be on Birth Control, they will ask you about your income and base the price on that. When I was a teen I only paid $12 per month, my best friend only paid $5 per month.
There’s different laws different places on whether or not you need parental consent. Just call a woman’s clinic near you and ask what the age is.
If you can get it without parental consent, just hide the pills. Take the pill each night at the same time before you go to bed so your parents don’t see you taking it.
If you’re not allowed to get on it without parental consent, you could always just tell your mom you need it to regulate your period. Lots of people use birth control pills to regulate their monthly cycle, because it’s one of the only ways to regulate it. That’s what one of my friends did when we were teens. Worked like a charm.
Your county health department can help you (always check the expiration date on condoms) and your pediatrician or family doctor can also provide you with information. Your school counselor is another source. Get information from as many sources as possible and remember sometimes ppl let their own emotions or traditions get in the way of giving out basic knowledge, for example an adult might tell you to just say No.
Waiting for sex until your out of high school is best. There are risk, true. TakeCareHealth.com can help you find a clinic near you that gives vaccines to lessen the risk of cervical cancer. Sexetc.org is a site by girls for girls. TeenSource.org Healthfinder.gov gives sites. http://www.kff.org/womenshealth/1351-teenfct.cfm is Kaiser Family Foundations artice.
Remember Make the choices that are best for you…not your boyfriend or your friends. It’s only natural to be curious. But it’s okay to take your time. Everybody has the right to grow up in their own time frame. Be good to you.
I don’t want to help you go behind your parents’ back and do something that could wind up screwing up your life.
"i have before and i just don’t want to risk it"
I have lost count of how many women I know who got pregnant while taking the pill. Adult women, who were taking it properly. It is not foolproof; it has a failure rate. And it does nothing at all to protect you from STDs. Condoms aren’t 100% either. If you don’t want to risk it, then don’t have sex. It’s not as hard as you think, and you’ll feel way better about yourself. It’s the only method that is guaranteed to prevent pregnancy and STDs. And it’s free. ; ) And you won’t have to hide it from your parents.
How old are you? If you aren’t old enough to get a script, then maybe you shouldn’t be having sex.
Use condoms and have all the guys pull out even with the condom on. See if you can get spermicide gel as well.
well youre 19. your parents cant stop you from taking them. why does it matter to them that you want to take birth control? unless they want you to have grandchildren quickly.
live your own life and dont care about what your parents think about it. you are an adult and as such you make your own decisions in life, not your parents